Time Will Carry On
Driving down the highway With my foot down to the floor The wind rushing through my hair The future, what's in store For me and my life to be With no direction on the map Every road leading to somewhere The bridge between the gap
The world keeps spinning round and round No matter who we want to be the world keeps spinning round and round No matter where we want to be
Cause time rolls on Young people want to grow up But time carries on Old people want to grow young But time will carry on Time will carry on
An old man lying on his bed Outside it is so cold Wondering what his life had become What stories will be told Of him in the future Of his life so filled with shame Oh how he wishes he could live His life all over again
The world keeps spinning round and round No matter who we want to be The world keeps spinning round and round No matter where we want to be
Cause time rolls on Young people want to grow up But time carries on Old people want to grow young But time will carry on Time will carry on
So let's live every minute Every second of each day Like it will be the last Song we'll ever play The results of all our lives Will ripple on forever So let's make the best of it Let time take us wherever
The world keeps spinning round and round No matter who we want to be The world keeps spinning round and round No matter where we want to be
Cause time rolls on Young people want to grow up But time carries on Old people want to grow young But time will carry on Time will carry on
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Sunday, August 13, 2006
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Sex after 40
Menopause is nature's original contraceptive. But, it is important to wait a full year after menopause (12 consecutive months of no period) before giving up contraceptives. During menopause, the thinning of the mucos membrances, along with a loss of elasticity in the walls of the vagina, causes an uncomfortable sensation of dryness in many women. The thinning of the vaginal lining results from the ovaries' decreased production of estrogen. This thinning does not always cause problems, but it can be painful if the lining of the vagina becomes inflamed, dry, and rough. Estrogen creams and pills are the common allopathic solution for this problem, but these products have serious risks and should be used with caution and awareness.
Remember, first and foremost, as you're getting older that many think of sex as penile-vaginal intercourse. Sex is defined differently by different people and schools of thought. Some say, sex can be anything designed to bring a woman to orgasm, yet many women claim to have satisfying sex without always experiencing orgasm -- even though the ideal for most is to reach orgasm. Oral or manual stimulation need not be thought of as the means to lubricate for genital intercourse. They can be a means to orgasm by themselves. A woman's same age partner may be having trouble with his erection and also appreciated broadening the definition of sex.
Though the medical name, atrophic vaginitis, makes this situation seem as if it is a disease, it is not. It can be remedied with simple remedies, loving care and understanding. Above all, follow a good solid nutritional program during your menopause years. This, more than anything, will help prevent the vagina from becoming overly dry and thin.
Sexual desire is often diminished by experiences with perimenopause, but it is often restored when these conditions subside.
Vaginal dryness and the thinning of genital tissue can lead to discomfort during sexual intercourse and masturbation. Over-the-counter, water- soluble vaginal lubricants may be helpful. Estrogen replacement creams are available by prescription.
Menopause is nature's original contraceptive. But it is important to wait a full year after menopause before giving up contraceptives. Also, menopause is no protection against sexually transmitted infections. Condoms are always necessary during sexual intercourse if you or your sex partner have more than one partner.
Using the Pill during perimenopause may mask menopause because periodic bleeding will continue. Women who use the Pill can have their hormone levels checked to be sure that menopause has been reached.
Helpful Power Surge Hints For Treating Thinning and Dry Vaginal Walls
First and foremost, drink at least two quarts of water and/or herbal tea every day.
Secondly, exercise the PC muscle (pubococcygeus) or Do Kegel Exercises
One of the fringe benefits of using soy isoflavones with genistein and daidzein, aka phytoestrogens / natural plant estrogens, is that they can eliminate vaginal dryness in many women because isoflavones have estrogenic effects without the risk of estrogen therapy. The most concentrated form is Revival Soy Protein.
Add some oil to your diet. Doing something as simplistic as swallowing one tablespoon of oil (Canola, olive, sunflower, soybean) daily will add lubrication to your body. Dryness, not only vaginal, is one of menopausal women's biggest offenders Doctors may not suggest these simple and very workable methods. They don't require prescriptions.
Another thing you may want to try is applying 1/2 teaspoon of natural progesterone cream intravaginally once a day. You can get more info about where to get it from the Web site's Recommendations page, plus there's a wealth of information about NP on the Web site in the Reading Room and in the hundreds of Guest Transcript Library. NP should provide lubrication without causing yeast infections. It's often dryness itself that causes painful intercourse.
Naturally compounded estrogen can be helpful in restoring moisture when vaginal dryness occurs during peri and postmenopause.
Testosterone Supplementation: Creams, Gels, Pellets, Capsules. Some women prefer to use testosterone supplementation. Remember, a woman needs only a very small dose of prescription testosterone. HRT, such as Estratest, contains too high a dose of testosterone (Dr. Susan Rako, author of The Hormone of Desire). You can E.mail Pete Hueseman , Power Surge's pharmaceutical consultant for more information on testosterone supplementation for vaginal dryness or to enhance libido often diminished during the menopause process and for any information regarding "naturally compounded" or "bio-identical" hormones.
Take 600-800 I.U. of vitamin E daily - in doses of 200 IU at a time -- not the megadoses you see on the health food store shelves. A menopausal woman shouldn't be using 1,000 IU's of vitamin E at a time and doesn't even need that much over the course of a day. In this case, more isn't better. Before taking supplemental vitamin E, consult your physician if you're being treated for hypertension, diabetes or a rheumatic heart. Under these circumstances, doses should be limited to small amounts, such as 50-150 IU, depending on your health condition. You can read more about vitamin E on the recommendations page.
You can insert a vitamin E capsule intravaginally for lubrication and to ease the pain of dryness. No need to break open the capsule; the pH of your body will do the job. This is one of the least expensive, most natural and effective ways of treating vaginal dryness. Just check the outer coating of the capsule first to make sure there are no sharp areas, so that you don't scratch the vaginal area when inserting. You can also cut open the capsule and place the vitamin E oil in the palm of your hand, then put some on your finger and insert it into your vagina. Again, make sure you have no nails that are sharp which might cause scratching or irritation.
Over the counter natural progesterone creams help some somen, or low doses of prescription natural, micronized progesterone cream. Many of the archived Newsletters in the Reading Room have much information about natural progesterone, plus there are articles on progesterone in the Educate Your Body area of the site.
Always lubricate yourself before having intercourse. You can try Replens, which is made specifically for that purpose. It's excellent as well as other lubricating products, such as Astroglide, Probe, Gyne-Moistrin and the old standby, K-Y Jelly. Condoms pretreated with Nonoxynol-9 will also add some slippery enhancement. There's also cocoa butter, coconut oil, and other fruit or vegetable oils such as almond oil and apricot oil also make nice natural lubricants.
Taking vitamin A orally is very helpful for dryness in general.
Add some oil to your diet. Doing something as simplistic as swallowing one tablespoon of oil (Canola, olive, sunflower, soybean) daily will add lubrication to your body. Dryness, not only vaginal, is one of a menopausal woman's biggest offenders Doctors may not suggest these simple and very workable methods. They don't require prescriptions.
Alura™ - For Building Intimacy: Sexual desire and response are frequently diminished during perimenopause due to the fluctuation and decline of hormones, but one's intimate relationships can be enhanced with various remedies. According to JAMA, the Journal of the American Medical Association, more than 40% of American women experience some sort of sexual dissatisfaction and sexual issues frequently become more apparent when perimenopause sets in. For more information about obtaining Alura™, E.mail one of our consulting pharmacists, Bellevue Pharmacy. In May, 2001, Oprah's Magazine, "O", touted ALURA™ as a pleasure-heightening, sensation-enhancing cream.
There are numerous lubricating gels available on the market. Always lubricate yourself before having intercourse. You can try Replens, which is made specifically for that purpose. There's Astroglide, Probe, Gyne-Moistrin. Condoms pretreated with Nonoxynol-9 will also add some slippery enhancement. There's also cocoa butter, coconut oil, and other fruit or vegetable oils such as almond oil and apricot oil also make natural lubricants.
Aloe vera/slippery elm paste is often used to soothe and lubricate an inflamed, dry vagina. Mix enough slippery elm powder into some aloe vera gel to form a thick paste. Apply inside the lips and up into the vagina. It will feel very cool and soothing.
Black cohosh can be helpful in relieving not only hot flashes, headaches, but vaginal dryness and more.
Chasteberry (Vitex), ginseng, dong quai and evening primrose oil can be helpful as well. Licorice root should be approached cautiously. Be careful using licorice root if you have high blood pressure. Licorice can cause your blood pressure to rise.
Another natural lubricant is saliva. Yours or his. A midlife or older woman's times ability to lubricate is not gone, it simply takes longer and requires more stimulation. Manual works fine. The woman or her partner can do it. Oral works better and faster. It can take 45 minutes to an hour. It is not a quick solution, but if a woman needs longer to become lubricated, she needs about the same amount of time to become aroused and her clitoris erect for orgasm. To shorten the time needed by using one of the replacements might be synonymous with having sex for a partner's pleasure primarily.
How to lubricate yourself with various oils and lubricants: Put a big glob, about the size of a nickel, on the tip of the index finger. Reapply whenever needed. Start by spreading both the inner and outer lips of the vulva with the finger, lubricating as you go. If there is any tissue sticking together, gently rub the finger with the lube in the center of the two lips while pulling back on the outermost lip at the same time. Make certain sure the area between inner and outer lips and between the inner lips is lubed. Then, starting at the vaginal opening make a circular upward spiraling inside the vagina. Also, instead of or addition to the vaginal application, grease the penis up.
You can connect with Power Surge Pharmaceutical Consultant of 9 years, Pete Hueseman. He's very knowledgable about menopause and is always very compassionate and helpful. You can call him or E.mail Pete directly. You'll find his toll-free number is on the Resources list on the Web site. Transcripts of his visits to Power Surge are in the the Library. You can also ask him questions directly in the Ask Power Surge's Pharmacist area.
KEGEL EXERCISES
WHAT IS A KEGEL?
A kegel is the name of a pelvic floor exercise, named after Dr. Kegel who discovered the exercise. These muscles are attached to the pelvic bone and act like a hammock, holding in your pelvic organs. To try and isolate these muscles trying stopping and starting the flow of urine.
WHY SHOULD I WANT TO DO KEGELS EXERCISES?
Kegeling provides many benefits. The exercises help firm up the vaginal canal, control urine flow (for incontinence problems), tighten and relax the muscles you use to stop urination and enhance orgasm. Sexual enjoyment is enhanced for both partners It can prevent prolapses of pelvic organs It can help prevent leaking urine when you sneeze or cough
HOW DO I DO THE EXERCISE?
Once you have located the muscles simply tighten and relax the mucsle over and over, about 200 times a day. These are basic kegels. There are many variations on kegels: elevator kegels (Where you tighten slowly, in increments going in and out, like an elevator stopping on several floors.), you can hold the muscle tightened for five seconds, you can bulge the muscles out at the end, and many other variations.
Kegel exercises help firm up the vaginal canal, control urine flow (for incontinence problems), tighten and relax the muscles you use to stop urination and enhance orgasm.
SIMPLE KEGEL EXERCISES:
Do at least five Kegels in a row several times a day:
Tighten a little -- count five Tighten a little more -- count fiveAs hard as possible -- count five Relax in reverse steps, counting five at each step
Other recommendations -- homeopathic or herbal methodolgy of treating vaginal dryness might be tincture of Motherwort 10 drops twice a day. You can also take tincture of Dong Quoi, 25 drops a day ( or use the caplets), but don't use Dong Quoi if you have fibroid tumors.
Chat with other women about sexual libido and vaginal dryness Power Surge Midlife Sexuality, Relationship Experts... Check the Power Surge Web Site's Library for transcripts of guest chats with experts in the area of sexuality. These guests have been part of Power Surge's, "My Menopause, My Sexual Self Series" started in 1995. Every author is listed in the Library alphabetically.
Click on the guest's name below to go to their transcripts.
Dr. Sandra Pertot, the author of Perfectly Normal: Living and Loving With Low Libido.
Dr. Marianne Brandon, the author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido.
Dr. Susan Rako, the author of "The Hormone of Desire: The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality and Menopause." Dr. Rako is an M.D. / Psychiatrist who's spent years researching testosterone.
Dr. Sandra Scantling, the author of "Extraordinary Sex : A Couple's Guide To Intimacy." Dr. Sandy is Power Surge's Ask The Intimacy Expert.
Steven Carter, author of the international runaway bestseller, "Men Who Can't Love," "What Smart Women Know" and This Is How Love Works. You'll also want to check out Steven Carter's, Ask The Power Surge Relationship Expert.
Mira Kirshenbaum, author of Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay.
Dr. Alan Altman, OB/GYN and Power Surge guest, co-author with Laurie Ashner of Making Love The Way We Used To ... Or Better.
Nancy Friday, author of numerous sexuality books including, The Power of Beauty: Men, Women and Sex Appeal Since Femninism.
Judith Sachs, author of numerous books including The Healing Power of Sex. Joan Irvine, Ph.D., author of Recipes for Hot Sex.
Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D. , author of The Pause: Positive Approaches To Menopause and numerous books on women's sexualty.
Sharyn Wolf, therapist and author of numerous books on sexuality and relationships, " How To Stay Lovers For Life" .
Lee Raffel , family psychotherapist and author of "Should I Stay or Go? How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage."
Additional reading about vaginal health.
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Discover the secrets of lifelong sexual fulfillment.
As our active years grow longer, what can we expect of our relationships? The truth may surprise you. Both sexes report a wonderful mutual discovery: "The desire—and the ability—to engage in gratifying sex can be sustained for a lifetime!" as leading sexuality and health expert Marvel Williamson tells us in this encouraging book. Great Sex after 40 is your well-informed and candid guide to recognizing and adjusting to the normal sexual changes brought on by aging. It dispels many long-standing myths about the effects of passing years on a healthy libido. And it answers common questions (about pain during intercourse, male dysfunction, and female anorgasmia) you may have been reluctant to ask your physician.You’ll find strategies you can implement yourself for lessening the impact on sexual function associated with diseases commonly encountered at middle age and beyond. The advantages and drawbacks of the growing range of corrective surgeries and prescription drugs are fully described from the viewpoints of both patients and their partners. Whether you are approaching your middle years accompanied by a loved one or discovering new relationships later in life, Great Sex after 40 is a reassuring advisor on your journey towards intimacy.
Remember, first and foremost, as you're getting older that many think of sex as penile-vaginal intercourse. Sex is defined differently by different people and schools of thought. Some say, sex can be anything designed to bring a woman to orgasm, yet many women claim to have satisfying sex without always experiencing orgasm -- even though the ideal for most is to reach orgasm. Oral or manual stimulation need not be thought of as the means to lubricate for genital intercourse. They can be a means to orgasm by themselves. A woman's same age partner may be having trouble with his erection and also appreciated broadening the definition of sex.
Though the medical name, atrophic vaginitis, makes this situation seem as if it is a disease, it is not. It can be remedied with simple remedies, loving care and understanding. Above all, follow a good solid nutritional program during your menopause years. This, more than anything, will help prevent the vagina from becoming overly dry and thin.
Sexual desire is often diminished by experiences with perimenopause, but it is often restored when these conditions subside.
Vaginal dryness and the thinning of genital tissue can lead to discomfort during sexual intercourse and masturbation. Over-the-counter, water- soluble vaginal lubricants may be helpful. Estrogen replacement creams are available by prescription.
Menopause is nature's original contraceptive. But it is important to wait a full year after menopause before giving up contraceptives. Also, menopause is no protection against sexually transmitted infections. Condoms are always necessary during sexual intercourse if you or your sex partner have more than one partner.
Using the Pill during perimenopause may mask menopause because periodic bleeding will continue. Women who use the Pill can have their hormone levels checked to be sure that menopause has been reached.
Helpful Power Surge Hints For Treating Thinning and Dry Vaginal Walls
First and foremost, drink at least two quarts of water and/or herbal tea every day.
Secondly, exercise the PC muscle (pubococcygeus) or Do Kegel Exercises
One of the fringe benefits of using soy isoflavones with genistein and daidzein, aka phytoestrogens / natural plant estrogens, is that they can eliminate vaginal dryness in many women because isoflavones have estrogenic effects without the risk of estrogen therapy. The most concentrated form is Revival Soy Protein.
Add some oil to your diet. Doing something as simplistic as swallowing one tablespoon of oil (Canola, olive, sunflower, soybean) daily will add lubrication to your body. Dryness, not only vaginal, is one of menopausal women's biggest offenders Doctors may not suggest these simple and very workable methods. They don't require prescriptions.
Another thing you may want to try is applying 1/2 teaspoon of natural progesterone cream intravaginally once a day. You can get more info about where to get it from the Web site's Recommendations page, plus there's a wealth of information about NP on the Web site in the Reading Room and in the hundreds of Guest Transcript Library. NP should provide lubrication without causing yeast infections. It's often dryness itself that causes painful intercourse.
Naturally compounded estrogen can be helpful in restoring moisture when vaginal dryness occurs during peri and postmenopause.
Testosterone Supplementation: Creams, Gels, Pellets, Capsules. Some women prefer to use testosterone supplementation. Remember, a woman needs only a very small dose of prescription testosterone. HRT, such as Estratest, contains too high a dose of testosterone (Dr. Susan Rako, author of The Hormone of Desire). You can E.mail Pete Hueseman , Power Surge's pharmaceutical consultant for more information on testosterone supplementation for vaginal dryness or to enhance libido often diminished during the menopause process and for any information regarding "naturally compounded" or "bio-identical" hormones.
Take 600-800 I.U. of vitamin E daily - in doses of 200 IU at a time -- not the megadoses you see on the health food store shelves. A menopausal woman shouldn't be using 1,000 IU's of vitamin E at a time and doesn't even need that much over the course of a day. In this case, more isn't better. Before taking supplemental vitamin E, consult your physician if you're being treated for hypertension, diabetes or a rheumatic heart. Under these circumstances, doses should be limited to small amounts, such as 50-150 IU, depending on your health condition. You can read more about vitamin E on the recommendations page.
You can insert a vitamin E capsule intravaginally for lubrication and to ease the pain of dryness. No need to break open the capsule; the pH of your body will do the job. This is one of the least expensive, most natural and effective ways of treating vaginal dryness. Just check the outer coating of the capsule first to make sure there are no sharp areas, so that you don't scratch the vaginal area when inserting. You can also cut open the capsule and place the vitamin E oil in the palm of your hand, then put some on your finger and insert it into your vagina. Again, make sure you have no nails that are sharp which might cause scratching or irritation.
Over the counter natural progesterone creams help some somen, or low doses of prescription natural, micronized progesterone cream. Many of the archived Newsletters in the Reading Room have much information about natural progesterone, plus there are articles on progesterone in the Educate Your Body area of the site.
Always lubricate yourself before having intercourse. You can try Replens, which is made specifically for that purpose. It's excellent as well as other lubricating products, such as Astroglide, Probe, Gyne-Moistrin and the old standby, K-Y Jelly. Condoms pretreated with Nonoxynol-9 will also add some slippery enhancement. There's also cocoa butter, coconut oil, and other fruit or vegetable oils such as almond oil and apricot oil also make nice natural lubricants.
Taking vitamin A orally is very helpful for dryness in general.
Add some oil to your diet. Doing something as simplistic as swallowing one tablespoon of oil (Canola, olive, sunflower, soybean) daily will add lubrication to your body. Dryness, not only vaginal, is one of a menopausal woman's biggest offenders Doctors may not suggest these simple and very workable methods. They don't require prescriptions.
Alura™ - For Building Intimacy: Sexual desire and response are frequently diminished during perimenopause due to the fluctuation and decline of hormones, but one's intimate relationships can be enhanced with various remedies. According to JAMA, the Journal of the American Medical Association, more than 40% of American women experience some sort of sexual dissatisfaction and sexual issues frequently become more apparent when perimenopause sets in. For more information about obtaining Alura™, E.mail one of our consulting pharmacists, Bellevue Pharmacy. In May, 2001, Oprah's Magazine, "O", touted ALURA™ as a pleasure-heightening, sensation-enhancing cream.
There are numerous lubricating gels available on the market. Always lubricate yourself before having intercourse. You can try Replens, which is made specifically for that purpose. There's Astroglide, Probe, Gyne-Moistrin. Condoms pretreated with Nonoxynol-9 will also add some slippery enhancement. There's also cocoa butter, coconut oil, and other fruit or vegetable oils such as almond oil and apricot oil also make natural lubricants.
Aloe vera/slippery elm paste is often used to soothe and lubricate an inflamed, dry vagina. Mix enough slippery elm powder into some aloe vera gel to form a thick paste. Apply inside the lips and up into the vagina. It will feel very cool and soothing.
Black cohosh can be helpful in relieving not only hot flashes, headaches, but vaginal dryness and more.
Chasteberry (Vitex), ginseng, dong quai and evening primrose oil can be helpful as well. Licorice root should be approached cautiously. Be careful using licorice root if you have high blood pressure. Licorice can cause your blood pressure to rise.
Another natural lubricant is saliva. Yours or his. A midlife or older woman's times ability to lubricate is not gone, it simply takes longer and requires more stimulation. Manual works fine. The woman or her partner can do it. Oral works better and faster. It can take 45 minutes to an hour. It is not a quick solution, but if a woman needs longer to become lubricated, she needs about the same amount of time to become aroused and her clitoris erect for orgasm. To shorten the time needed by using one of the replacements might be synonymous with having sex for a partner's pleasure primarily.
How to lubricate yourself with various oils and lubricants: Put a big glob, about the size of a nickel, on the tip of the index finger. Reapply whenever needed. Start by spreading both the inner and outer lips of the vulva with the finger, lubricating as you go. If there is any tissue sticking together, gently rub the finger with the lube in the center of the two lips while pulling back on the outermost lip at the same time. Make certain sure the area between inner and outer lips and between the inner lips is lubed. Then, starting at the vaginal opening make a circular upward spiraling inside the vagina. Also, instead of or addition to the vaginal application, grease the penis up.
You can connect with Power Surge Pharmaceutical Consultant of 9 years, Pete Hueseman. He's very knowledgable about menopause and is always very compassionate and helpful. You can call him or E.mail Pete directly. You'll find his toll-free number is on the Resources list on the Web site. Transcripts of his visits to Power Surge are in the the Library. You can also ask him questions directly in the Ask Power Surge's Pharmacist area.
KEGEL EXERCISES
WHAT IS A KEGEL?
A kegel is the name of a pelvic floor exercise, named after Dr. Kegel who discovered the exercise. These muscles are attached to the pelvic bone and act like a hammock, holding in your pelvic organs. To try and isolate these muscles trying stopping and starting the flow of urine.
WHY SHOULD I WANT TO DO KEGELS EXERCISES?
Kegeling provides many benefits. The exercises help firm up the vaginal canal, control urine flow (for incontinence problems), tighten and relax the muscles you use to stop urination and enhance orgasm. Sexual enjoyment is enhanced for both partners It can prevent prolapses of pelvic organs It can help prevent leaking urine when you sneeze or cough
HOW DO I DO THE EXERCISE?
Once you have located the muscles simply tighten and relax the mucsle over and over, about 200 times a day. These are basic kegels. There are many variations on kegels: elevator kegels (Where you tighten slowly, in increments going in and out, like an elevator stopping on several floors.), you can hold the muscle tightened for five seconds, you can bulge the muscles out at the end, and many other variations.
Kegel exercises help firm up the vaginal canal, control urine flow (for incontinence problems), tighten and relax the muscles you use to stop urination and enhance orgasm.
SIMPLE KEGEL EXERCISES:
Do at least five Kegels in a row several times a day:
Tighten a little -- count five Tighten a little more -- count fiveAs hard as possible -- count five Relax in reverse steps, counting five at each step
Other recommendations -- homeopathic or herbal methodolgy of treating vaginal dryness might be tincture of Motherwort 10 drops twice a day. You can also take tincture of Dong Quoi, 25 drops a day ( or use the caplets), but don't use Dong Quoi if you have fibroid tumors.
Chat with other women about sexual libido and vaginal dryness Power Surge Midlife Sexuality, Relationship Experts... Check the Power Surge Web Site's Library for transcripts of guest chats with experts in the area of sexuality. These guests have been part of Power Surge's, "My Menopause, My Sexual Self Series" started in 1995. Every author is listed in the Library alphabetically.
Click on the guest's name below to go to their transcripts.
Dr. Sandra Pertot, the author of Perfectly Normal: Living and Loving With Low Libido.
Dr. Marianne Brandon, the author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido.
Dr. Susan Rako, the author of "The Hormone of Desire: The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality and Menopause." Dr. Rako is an M.D. / Psychiatrist who's spent years researching testosterone.
Dr. Sandra Scantling, the author of "Extraordinary Sex : A Couple's Guide To Intimacy." Dr. Sandy is Power Surge's Ask The Intimacy Expert.
Steven Carter, author of the international runaway bestseller, "Men Who Can't Love," "What Smart Women Know" and This Is How Love Works. You'll also want to check out Steven Carter's, Ask The Power Surge Relationship Expert.
Mira Kirshenbaum, author of Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay.
Dr. Alan Altman, OB/GYN and Power Surge guest, co-author with Laurie Ashner of Making Love The Way We Used To ... Or Better.
Nancy Friday, author of numerous sexuality books including, The Power of Beauty: Men, Women and Sex Appeal Since Femninism.
Judith Sachs, author of numerous books including The Healing Power of Sex. Joan Irvine, Ph.D., author of Recipes for Hot Sex.
Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D. , author of The Pause: Positive Approaches To Menopause and numerous books on women's sexualty.
Sharyn Wolf, therapist and author of numerous books on sexuality and relationships, " How To Stay Lovers For Life" .
Lee Raffel , family psychotherapist and author of "Should I Stay or Go? How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage."
Additional reading about vaginal health.
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Description
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Read Excerpt (PDF)
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Discover the secrets of lifelong sexual fulfillment.
As our active years grow longer, what can we expect of our relationships? The truth may surprise you. Both sexes report a wonderful mutual discovery: "The desire—and the ability—to engage in gratifying sex can be sustained for a lifetime!" as leading sexuality and health expert Marvel Williamson tells us in this encouraging book. Great Sex after 40 is your well-informed and candid guide to recognizing and adjusting to the normal sexual changes brought on by aging. It dispels many long-standing myths about the effects of passing years on a healthy libido. And it answers common questions (about pain during intercourse, male dysfunction, and female anorgasmia) you may have been reluctant to ask your physician.You’ll find strategies you can implement yourself for lessening the impact on sexual function associated with diseases commonly encountered at middle age and beyond. The advantages and drawbacks of the growing range of corrective surgeries and prescription drugs are fully described from the viewpoints of both patients and their partners. Whether you are approaching your middle years accompanied by a loved one or discovering new relationships later in life, Great Sex after 40 is a reassuring advisor on your journey towards intimacy.
Sunday, June 25, 2006
more than lust
The term Soul Mates means many things. These are soul that you have experienced with in past, parallel or future lifetimes. They can also be aspects of your soul experiencing at this time in another body. We are all have multidimensional beings - your soul having experiences, in many realities, at the same time. As we all evolve from the same source of consciousness creation - we could say that we are all souls mates in a manner of speaking.
Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete.
Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that which they are experiencing elsewhere.
Anyone who is in your biological family - or adopted family - or pseudo-family - is a soul mate to you.
and if u are of opposite sex, it is sexual too
but incest is a taboo in our society. so it is curbed
You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them.
Karma is the responsibilites shared between soul mates..
Often souls mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends.
The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child.
Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother.
Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you.
Soul mates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you.
Did you know that you often attract people into your life who look as you do in parallel or past lives? For example - you are a man seeking a female partner. You will seek out someone who looks and acts if you were a woman - like a mirror image.
Your ideal partner is who you are in that physical body! We are always seeking ways to experience ourselves.
Men often seek the goddess when searching for a mate - one who looks like the priestess - slim body, long flowing hair purity of soul
- dat is a fallacy, the soul is more than body
the body ages and will not look beautiful in the conventional sense as u age
but when two lovers look at each other
they look in the eyes of the other
the windows to the soul
no matter how long 2 ppl live together as soul mates 70, 80, 90
there will always be that spark betwen them
the spark dat arouses an erection in the male
and the wetness between the legs of the woman
the desire to be one in body as in soul
but due to the process of ageing, an erection or wetness may not take place in the physical sense, but the desire will always be there to pleasure the other
- Saby
adapted from an article i read during google search
i lost the link
Soul mates can have various types of relationships, which do not always include romantic love. We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete.
Souls often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles than that which they are experiencing elsewhere.
Anyone who is in your biological family - or adopted family - or pseudo-family - is a soul mate to you.
and if u are of opposite sex, it is sexual too
but incest is a taboo in our society. so it is curbed
You feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them.
Karma is the responsibilites shared between soul mates..
Often souls mates come together to bring another soul into the physical realms. A man and woman mate and produce one or more children - the karma thus completed ends.
The couple separates and share whatever karma is linked to the child.
Sometimes the karma in family is between mother and child - so the child remains exclusively with the mother.
Sometimes the karma is with the father and the mother leaves or deceases. Sometimes it is with both parents or with a sibling who has entered the game before or after you.
Soul mates can be close friends, co-workers, a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional - spiritual - physical - and mental - games of third dimension with you.
Did you know that you often attract people into your life who look as you do in parallel or past lives? For example - you are a man seeking a female partner. You will seek out someone who looks and acts if you were a woman - like a mirror image.
Your ideal partner is who you are in that physical body! We are always seeking ways to experience ourselves.
Men often seek the goddess when searching for a mate - one who looks like the priestess - slim body, long flowing hair purity of soul
- dat is a fallacy, the soul is more than body
the body ages and will not look beautiful in the conventional sense as u age
but when two lovers look at each other
they look in the eyes of the other
the windows to the soul
no matter how long 2 ppl live together as soul mates 70, 80, 90
there will always be that spark betwen them
the spark dat arouses an erection in the male
and the wetness between the legs of the woman
the desire to be one in body as in soul
but due to the process of ageing, an erection or wetness may not take place in the physical sense, but the desire will always be there to pleasure the other
- Saby
adapted from an article i read during google search
i lost the link
Friday, May 26, 2006
i dont wanna grow old
I wanna be young the rest of my life
never say no - try anything twice
til the angels come and ask me to fly
I'm gonna be 18 til I die - 18 til I die
can't live forever that's wishful thinkin'
who ever said that must of bin' drinkin'
don't wanna grow up I don't see why
I couldn't care less if time flies by18 til I die - gonna be 18 til I die
it sure feels good to be alive
someday I'll be 18 goin' on 55! - 18 til I die anyway - I just wanna saywhy bother with what happened yesterdayit's not my style I live for the minuteif ya wanna stay young get both feet in it - 18 til I diea 'lil bit of this - a 'lil bit of that'lil bit of everything - gotta get on trackit's not how ya look, it's what ya feel insideI don't care when - I don't need ta know why18 til I die - gonna be 18 til I dieya it sure feels good to be alivesomeday I'll be 18 goin' on 55! - 18 til I dieya there's one thing for sure - I'm sure gonna trydon't worry 'bout the future - forget about the pastgonna have a ball - ya we're gonna have a blastgonna make it last - 18 til I die
never say no - try anything twice
til the angels come and ask me to fly
I'm gonna be 18 til I die - 18 til I die
can't live forever that's wishful thinkin'
who ever said that must of bin' drinkin'
don't wanna grow up I don't see why
I couldn't care less if time flies by18 til I die - gonna be 18 til I die
it sure feels good to be alive
someday I'll be 18 goin' on 55! - 18 til I die anyway - I just wanna saywhy bother with what happened yesterdayit's not my style I live for the minuteif ya wanna stay young get both feet in it - 18 til I diea 'lil bit of this - a 'lil bit of that'lil bit of everything - gotta get on trackit's not how ya look, it's what ya feel insideI don't care when - I don't need ta know why18 til I die - gonna be 18 til I dieya it sure feels good to be alivesomeday I'll be 18 goin' on 55! - 18 til I dieya there's one thing for sure - I'm sure gonna trydon't worry 'bout the future - forget about the pastgonna have a ball - ya we're gonna have a blastgonna make it last - 18 til I die
Monday, May 01, 2006
Sex After Sixty
Sex after sixty; couples say that advancing age is no longer an excuse for a lousy love life
Ebony, July, 1989 by Alex Poinsett, Richette L. Haywood
HE'S 74 and a retired U.S. Army forklift truck supervisor. She's 71 and a part-time receptionist. When Aretha and Jethro english celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary in Atlanta two years ago, their two adult children teased them about diminishing body chemistry. But the couple's venerable role as great-grandparents doesn't keep them from regularly affirming their sexiness.
Mrs. English is amused that many of her peers donht even talk about, let along engange in, sexual activity, a bodily function she ranks in importance with respiration and digestion. She rejects social taboos against aging persons expressing sexual needs. She also rejects mythical claims that sexual desire automatically ebbs with age, declining in the 40s and hitting bottom sometime between 60 and 65. Nor does she agree with those latter-day Victorians who equate sex with S-I-N.
Like Mrs. English, many of the nation's 30 million people (one of every seven) who are 60 or older are much more active sexually than is generally believed. "People are having sex long after they start wearing reading glasses and hearing aids," says one sex behavior researcher.
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in praise of older women
An older woman can wear any hat she chooses and nobody will laugh.
A younger woman wearing the same hat will always look like a lampshade in a brothel.
An older woman will never wake you up in the middle of the night & ask you, "What are you thinking?" An older woman doesn't care what you think.
An older woman always carries a purse full of emergency supplies. Young women go hungry and bleed to death every time there's a natural disaster.
An older woman always carries a condom in her purse. A younger woman is still hoping the guy might have one on him.
An older woman is a cheaper date. A younger woman will cost you 12 beers, but an older woman will sleep with you after a cup of a herbal tea.
The older a woman gets, the stronger her libido gets and the older a man gets, the weaker his libido gets... which is why nature intended young guys to go out with older women and young women to go out with older men. (this one ain't always true - wink, wink )
An older woman can wear bright red lipstick during the day without looking like she just had an adventure inside a jam jar. This is not true of younger women or drag queens.
Older women can run faster because they're always wearing sensible shoes. An older woman is into free sex! An older woman is almost always already attached to someone, so there's no need to develop a phobia about committing to her. The last thing she needs in her life is another clingy, whiny, dependent lover! (child)
Older women are more honest. An older woman will tell you that you are an asshole if you're acting like one. A young woman will say nothing, just in case it means you might break up with her.
An older woman puts herself on a pedestal. An older woman will never get pregnant and then suddenly demand that the two of you get married. In fact, if you impregnate an older woman, you will probably be the last to know...
Older women have jobs with dental plans. Younger women can't help you when your teeth get knocked out playing hockey.
An older woman will never accuse you of "using her." She's using you. Older women take charge of the situation. An older woman will call you up and ask you for a date. A younger woman will wait forever, by the phone, for you to call...
Older women know how to cook. Young women know how to dial Pizza Hut Take out.
An older woman will introduce you to all of her girlfriends. A younger woman will avoid her girlfriends when she's with you, in case you get any ideas...
Older women are psychic. You never have to confess to having an affair, because somehow they always know.
Older women often own an interesting collection of lingerie that they have acquired from admirers over the years. Young women often don't wear underpants at all, thus practically eliminating all possibility of a strip-tease.
Older women know what Kegel exercises are. An older woman will agree to go to McDonald's with you for a meal. Younger women are too nervous to eat anything in front of somebody that they might possibly boff later.
Older women are dignified. They are beyond having a screaming match with you in the middle of the night in a public park.
Older women are experienced. They understand that sometimes, after 12 beers, a boy just can't get it up. A younger woman may need some time to grasp this fact.
An older woman has lots of girlfriends... and most of them will want to boff you too.
An older woman will always meet the minimum height requirement to go on an amusement ride.
An older woman will never accuse you of stealing the best years of her youth because chances are someone else has stolen them first.
http://bertc.com/inpraise.htm
They doubt themselves now, but they're more interesting and lovelier than ever. They've had their adventures, they have stories to tell. They're knowing, wry, and speak in husky cigarette voices. They get my jokes. They're surprised that I'm not a close minded insecure prick like their ex husbands were. They tango, and foxtrot, and swing. I miss ballroom dancing. I had to stop though; I knew I'd get myself into trouble. Older women tell me I'm well read and mature for my age... they make me feel suave, sophisticated, just like they are. I don't get that from young women (Don't fret, young women, you have plenty going for you, and all I'm saying is the best might still be yet to come).Someone said men grow distinguished but women just grow old. I disagree. Women do too grow distinguished. Without the baldness and beer guts of my own graceless gender, might I add. Want to see distinguished? Look at Hillary Clinton, Susan Sarandon, and aaaaaw Carly Fiorina. Look at some of the managers at my day job, but be subtle. It's safer to look at the ladies at my night job, though. I can look at them all I want because I'm a desk clerk, and I'm supposed to smile, chat, and make eye contact. Paid to flirt. Heaven. Blurring the line between customer service and simply swooning at that fortysomething in a business suit with hot legs on her way back from some convention at the University. How confidently she clicks accross the floor! I wonder if she's got a PhD. Definitely at least a Masters. Cute, tiny, and fragile she might seem, but don't be fooled. She's given birth. She's been married and divorced, and maybe married again and divorced again. All while beating and clawing her way through one glass ceiling after another. Now she's standing atop one of the outermost ones, looking down. To the victor belong the spoils. I'd be more than happy to carry you to your room madam, if you wish. No trouble at all, we aim to please. I am completely, and utterly, at your disposal. If there is anything, anything at all you need, please don't hesitate to ask.
Saturday, April 29, 2006
older and wiser, aged to perfection
To be seventy years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be forty years old.
-Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (1809-94)
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-Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (1809-94)
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